Archives for July 2013

Naming Names – Help for Parents Caught in Conflict

You’ve now seen through press coverage of specific stories that certain judges are being influenced – in an inappropriate way – by certain attorneys and custody experts.  Many of you are asking, “So who are the others doing this?”

Obviously, as your comments reflect, there are more than a few people engaged in misconduct and in covering it up, or these actions would not be so blatant, and so profitable.

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This “hidden influence” is leading not only to financial and emotional damage to good parents, but also leading to physical and emotional damages to children.

The impact on our community is tremendous – and virtually no one is immune to what is going on.

But we should all be putting our foot down collectively over the damages to our childrenWe are seeing children develop severe, long term medical/emotional problems that would not be occurring otherwise.

This trauma is leading to drug problems, truancy, jail time and even suicide.

That alone is worth naming names publicly of those contributing to or benefitting from the court-related misconduct, and working toward transparency and accountability.  (Yes, we are inviting discussion with these professionals, asking for help in restoring health, peace & support for these families and children.  It is the ONLY right option, and it’s not too late to shift gears and help rather than harm.)

Please feel free to submit via PRIVATE email here on this website or via PRIVATE message on Facebook the names of professionals who have conducted themselves in similar fashion. 

The best means of sharing information is to Contact Us HERE.

We don’t need a lot of detail for now, just enough to know that a bad/harmful outcome was obtained because professionals ignored or suppressed evidence that, if the laws and ethics rules were being followed, would have been used to provide protections and support.  Should you want to discuss your case or situation further, let us know and we will provide you with our Intake Form.

Any and all legal advice must come from an attorney licensed in the State of Georgia, so please note that submitting information – while we treat with all possible confidentiality and view submissions as sensitive – is not considered “attorney-client privileged.”

We are not attorneys but do have legal, financial & psychological advisors on stand-by and will help inform you so that you know you are in the right hands going forward.  (If you have peace of mind about those supporting you, you’ll make better decisions..meaning your children will be better cared for.)

Information can be shared with our Resource Team and advisors by telephone or in person if digital/email communications are not appropriate for your situation.  You can also submit evidence directly to contacts with press or law enforcement, and we can arrange to help you with that if appropriate;  just get the information where it can be followed through on.

At a minimum, and for starters, if you have a case where you can show what appears to be professional misconduct, you should immediately call the State Bar and request a grievance form.  We’ve been told, “If people are being harmed, then WHY are they not filing grievances with us?”

So, please do ask for those forms, fill them out, send them in on a timely basis.  (If you need assistance, we have good malpractice attorneys available to consult with you on this process.  Note that this is hourly fee-based work, but worth it if you can afford to pay it.)

The more information that comes to light about misconduct and cases being mishandled, the better our community can be served.

*Our job is NOT to act as law enforcement or reporters, but our mission includes informing and empowering those entities responsible for reporting and protecting.

Professionals: if you are committed to upholding laws, ethics rules, fiduciary duty and the needs of your clients – and especially their children’s needs – please let us know if you would like to help with these cases coming in.

One part of our mission is to help the State Bar fully realize the nature of the misconduct and the extent of the damages, and to influence this conduct to cease.

Give parents and children a chance to recover, so that they can thrive as they would be doing but for the interference, misconduct and hidden influence as described in the press coverage.

Going forward, we are working hard to help families transition through and out of conflict faster, to support children in receiving the best that both parents have to offer, and to allow the family’s resources to be preserved for the benefit of children and parents.

Children deserve to be healthy and supported, in the care of loving and available parents, and they deserve to see their parents thriving in this role.  Anything else is not natural, and does interfere with the child’s development and future.

Sometimes it’s OK to be seen as controversial, or even “radical” as certain guilty parties like to say… But here goes: Shame on you if you disagree with this, or if you stand in the way.

If you are a parent who has hired and used professionals engaged in these tactics… aimed at harming the other parent, please know that there is a way to correct your situation without making things worse.

We are especially asking you to reconsider this situation.  You’ve probably already done enough harm to the other parent to feel that sick sense of satisfaction…not that it’s ever enough when your temper is raging or when you are feeling wounded.

Just know this: There is a way to meet in the middle, better serve your children, and allow your family to move forward with less conflict, expense and stress.  For sure, having a conversation about options will not do you any harm. (We won’t tell if YOU won’t!)

Thank you for your trust and your support.

Rally on Fulton County Courthouse Steps

When: July 8th, Monday after the holiday weekend.  During the lunch hour, 11am to 1pm.

Where: Fulton County Courthouse

What: #RALLY4Kids

Who: Concerned parents & those who support families and children, including church members, neighbors and co-workers.

Why are hundreds of people emailing and calling for help? 

Because it seems that certain judges are not allowing good parents to protect and care for their children.

Is it just because of judicial bias against a certain gender or against the color of a parent’s skin?  Or is there some other influence we cannot see or anticipate?

This message is not just coming from hundreds of people in a small area of Atlanta.  There are tens of thousands nationally saying the same thing.  But next week we are focusing on two judges, in one courthouse.  #FultonCounty #Georgia

The messages you can help us share here on Facebook, on Twitter, and over the phone or in email:

Serve the #NeedsofChildren 

#StopChildAbuse

#ImproveFamilyLaw by bringing attention to #FultonFamilyCourt and the actions of certain judges on certain cases.

Help us ask, “Why are you suppressing evidence of child abuse?”

“Why are you locking out good parents when their children need them most??”

“Why would you take a child from a great parent, take away that parent’s rights and steal their money, just to reward someone who is paying to suppress evidence of wrongdoing?”

“Why would you put a child into the hands of someone believed by several professionals, including law enforcement, to be abusing a child?”  And, “Is it OK to allow expert witnesses to be intimidated and prevented from supporting a child they believe to be suffering from abuse?”

Is this how the legal process and our laws are supposed to work?

What are we missing here?  We would really like to know what “best interests of the child” means in YOUR reality, because things aren’t adding up – not in a way that is HEALTHY for our children.

We would appreciate as concerned citizens, tax-payers, parents and neighbors being able to see if there is something we just don’t know about why our Courts are enabling misconduct and rewarding foul play.  Is there a good/legal reason for allowing children to get hurt, and to repeatedly be hurt?  If we are wrong on drawing conclusions in all of our CASE STUDIES across all of these cases, across all of these court rooms, then we would love for you to show us why these patterns of conduct make sense to you.

Please, discuss this with us and help us understand?  We know it is not because we don’t have access to talented, bright, law-abiding attorneys and psychologists, or access to good judges.  Correct?

Our community is filled not only with parents, friends, family, church members and neighbors; it is filled with educators, doctors/nurses/therapists, law enforcement officers and business people.  They all want answers and are tired of hearing the same terrible stories.

Many from all over our society are asking us to explain, because it just DOES NOT MAKE SENSE why you would NOT FOLLOW LAWS that are designed to PROTECT CHILDREN AND PARENTS.

Does this make sense to anyone you know??  Follow this event and talk to us:  On Facebook & On Twitter

Why is My Advocate Center promoting this event and these messages?

Simply because we need to, as so many children are being hurt.

Contact Us to learn more, join the rally or just see how you can help.

What’s next?  Parents, professionals and even policy makers are asking for intervention.  They are asking what THEY can do to stop the misconduct leading to injury of children.  So next we will be revealing case studies and answering questions with our panel of experts and officials in a larger Town Hall setting.  Date/Location TBD.

For now, please join these caring families, neighbors and church friends next Monday, July 8th at lunch time.   

Use your time and your voice to ask these Fulton County Judges and attorneys to change what they are doing to our children and their parents.