Good Fathers Matter

It is taking a crisis in Georgia for many to get the difference between the good fathers (like those we are working with, the ones getting the raw deal in family court) and those who are being enabled as they behave badly.

But let’s put that mess aside, and help Georgia get “off the ice” now, and focused on moving forward!

This is what matters, this report courtesy of one of our legislators who is helping the public see the good in a crisis:

 “A father walked 6 miles in the snow to his daughter’s school so she would not spend her first night away from home alone.” #GoodFathersMatter

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True Georgia story: a father walked 6 miles in the storm to join his daughter stranded at her school.  She did not have to spend her first night away from home...alone without him.

True Georgia story: a father walked 6 miles in the storm to join his daughter stranded at her school. She did not have to spend her first night away from home…alone without him.

From My Advocate Center:

To ALL the many fathers we know here in Georgia and around the country who are being put in a position to NOT be able to give to your children this way:

We recognize what is happening, and are as committed to you and to this problem as we are to others.

Stay strong and keep giving and doing what you know is right for your children, even when you are being held back. #NotGivingUp

Testimonials of Professionals

Professionals from several specialties are speaking out about what they are seeing in their practices.

Now they are responding to our work and to the news stories, so we are sharing excerpts while also maintaining privacy until we have signed permission to release names.

Excerpts will continue to be added in the coming days.

Psychologist:

“I just wanted to let you know I am encouraging some of the families I work with to email their stories to you, as well as use your website as a resource. It has been incredibly frustrating for me as a therapist to be so powerless in our court system. I WANT to ensure them that the system is there to protect children, but have learned through experience not to give them any false hopes.”

Economic Impact: Reform Makes Business Sense

Business leaders and business press:

My Advocate Center has been tracking for several years the impact on each community, and on our state.

You’ve seen it in your firms and corporations: the lost time from work, lost productivity, higher levels of stress and inability to focus.  You’ve seen the increase in healthcare costs, and the time lost to moving to smaller homes and dealing with children who are not coping well.

Now it is possible to see how the bad practices in Family Court are feeding and escalating these issues, and on a larger scale than you might imagine.  You know the divorce rate in Georgia?  Across the country?  You also are aware of the foreclosure rates here as well.

There is a direct correlation between what we are measuring and reporting on, and the economic impact felt by both our business community and our citizens.  When you see the data it will be an easy decision to make.  Backing reform over how our families and children are treated as they work through legal conflict will become a priority.

If the economic impact is not a concern to you or your business, then think about what is happening that could also happen to your children and grandchildren.  As we are proving now, no one is immune.

On Twitter:

#ReformMakesGoodBusinessSense #AtlantaNews

#BusinessofDivorce #FamilyCourtReform

#LostRealEstate #EconomicImpact

LinkedIn:

Discussions are developing around the country between professionals, professionals and parents, and in the business and healthcare communities regarding why we should collectively address these bad practices, and how to help our families and communities recover. The numbers are too staggering to ignore any longer.  And now we have the data and the solutions.

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MLK Day: Join the Movement

Join Parents & supporters of the civil rights that are being denied in Family Court.  Continue this movement.

Join Parents & supporters of the civil rights that are being denied in Family Court. Continue this movement.

“What are YOU doing for others?”  This was the premise behind founding My Advocate Center, and asking more parents, professionals, policymakers & civic leaders to get involved.

Join the group of parents and concerned citizens who are voicing the urgent need for Family Court Reform.

Children are missing good parents.  Parents are being denied the right to care for, nurture and protect their children.

This is not necessary to allow this to happen – not according to our laws, our constitution, and based on the facts and evidence of these cases.

Help these families recover while we work to prevent more of the same.

We can’t think of a better way to honor the memory of the ultimate “Game Changer” in the history of Civil Rights.

Thank you for your support, and for using your voice in a non-violent way.

Please see our Facebook event page for details:  https://www.facebook.com/events/640934305968467/

Then subscribe to receive the newsletter about this Rally on MLK Day 2014, Atlanta, Georgia.

Atlanta News: CBS Asks Why the Need for Family Court Reform

You may have learned over this past year that just because police and DFCS substantiate claims of child abuse, that does not mean the judge and custody experts will use this evidence to protect a child.

It does not even mean that the child’s THERAPIST will take the evidence seriously in order to protect the child…how is that even possible?  This therapist was chosen by the mother, but only because she had a credible background and substantial role in advocacy for children.  However, when money becomes an issue…it appears evidence and the medical needs of a child do not carry much weight.

This therapist would not listen to police, the child, other real doctors and is not trained to treat dissociative disorder.  This disorder can manifest for victims of severe and prolonged abuse.

This medical disorder and the signs of trauma are glaring in a number of cases in Georgia that are being handled much like this one.  Should our healthcare community and educators be made aware, so they can get involved to help stop this?  We think so.

Dr Danielle Levy decided that overwhelming evidence of abuse & trauma should be ignored.  $$$

Dr Danielle Levy decided that overwhelming evidence of abuse & trauma should be ignored. $$$

 

My Advocate Center has been researching cases across counties and collecting data, and unfortunately the pattern is the same.  If certain attorneys and select custody experts get together, they can put profit over protection.

By hosting the world premiere of the Divorce Corp. film narrated by Dr. Drew, Atlanta was able to bring together parents and professionals to expose the truth and discuss reform.

Continue reading and watching our news coverage as there is much more to report that will help drive change, should you choose to understand and then act on it.

 

 

This is the second in a series of interviews on this case, but the start of a national movement with My Advocate Center to help fathers understand what mothers like this one are going through.  We are all on the same team around protecting children who are being harmed by unethical court practices, foul play, and the “Pay to Play” system.

Guilty parties will pay large amounts of money to have evidence suppressed, and to retain access to their victims.   It is a “Pay to Play” system that allows violent or abusive parties to use children as pawns and to use the process to hide crimes and punish parents seeking protection from the court.

This “Pay to Play” concept also works in reverse, where certain attorneys counsel clients to lie to police – wasting our law enforcement resources – and use false allegations to gain advantage or punish the other party.  Either way, children are harmed, as is our State.  The case revealed in our local coverage fits the Pay to Play concept, and foul play is involved, but it is not a false allegations case as the father’s attorney is asserting.  Look at the facts of the case, the record, and what the professionals were paid to keep the available evidence and testimony – including from police – OFF the record.

There is more to follow, including the tactics of working to deny a litigant the opportunity and right to appeal.

Now is the time to get involved, and save these children and the good parents counting on our Courts and laws for protection.

Please follow updates about Family Court Reform and ask your legislators to help see this through.

Twitter: Follow @MyAdvocateCentr  using #FamilyCourtReform #ImproveFamilyLaw #NeedsofChildren #MyAdvocateCenter — and help stop these #shenanigans.

 

Atlanta News Radio – Family Court Reform

The gavel dropped to open the 2014 Georgia legislative session, right after this brief segment aired.

All News 106.7 and Scott Kimbler reveal what is going on behind the scenes at My Advocate Center regarding Family Court Reform.

Help us serve the real needs of children who are not being protected due to foul play and hidden influence in certain family court cases.

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New Series: What Lawyers Say

Day One:  Lawyer Quote #1

Social Media Rocks.  Why?  Good lawyers are getting the word out.  We are listening.

It is NOT all attorneys and judges involved in wreaking havoc on unsuspecting citizens.

This is anonymous for now, until we have permission to use his name:

“Reforms are definitely needed in [my state]. To establish reforms that benefit the parties will require the participation of family law lawyers who support certain changes, too many which can be listed here.  (MAC: we agree) That said, it’s no secret that the family law system is a business. Additionally, it should be generally understood that model does not serve clients well, unless a client gets lucky and hires a highly ethical and competent family law lawyer who is more interested in resolving the divorce as amicably and efficiently as possible, rather than generating the most billable hours. I’ve seen far too many examples of the latter.

I was told by prior employers that I solved cases too quickly, and that by doing so, I cost that employ tens of thousand of dollars that could have been generated from the case (had I not resolved the parties issues so soon). That’s the primary reason I decided to work for myself, so my hands would not be tied, in terms of helping people resolve their divorce without costing so much, and without the unnecessary generation of conflict.

To put out a fire, one should apply water, not gasoline. Many family law lawyers apply gas to increase the fire. The brighter and longer the fire burns, the more money they make. Of course, one who has a conscience (such as myself) finds this approach beyond deplorable.

Again, it’s no secret (at least within the industry) that most family law lawyers don’t bend over backwards to resolve conflict as quickly as possible, whether their reason is to generate more billable hours, or they lack the skill (professional/legal or interpersonal) to help parties resolve conflict in a competent manner.  (MAC note: why should this secret be kept from the public?)

Most lawyers are adept at conflict. Also, many get into family law for the wrong reason (because there’s plenty of work and it seems like an easy area of law, and it’s also easy to start a solo practice). Hence, parties are at high risk that once they initiate their divorce process and hire a lawyer, that their problems will escalate.”

* This is just one sample: lawyers all over our country are stepping forward to say they are OVER being labeled along with those who commit fraud, breach fiduciary duty, commit legal malpractice…or who are just plain lazy or greedy, or all of the above.

Keep it coming!

#Courage #ThrowawayClient

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What many lawyers – not all – want you to do

Mission: Improve Family Law

Why is My Advocate Center a mission, or considered a public service?

The public trust is being destroyed at an alarming rate around our legal system.  This is not just a family court issue, of course, but our focus with this organization is on what is happening to parents and children, and what can be done to restore balance, help families recover faster, and to prevent more of the misconduct that is driving a severely negative aftermath.

What this Situation looks like to families:

  • Parents are being deceived as they go through divorce, manipulated due to their vulnerable emotional state.
    • They are experiencing escalated and prolonged conflict rather than advocacy designed to lower and end conflict.
    • They are losing everything they have in the process, rather than having resources (including time and health) preserved for the benefit of their children.
  • Parents are losing their right to time with their children and the right to nurture and protect children.
    • This is happening to both fathers and mothers, and in contrast to what the evidence of the case dictates.
    • This is in conflict with our laws & ethics rules governing family court professionals. It is in conflict with common sense and with our humanity.
  • Our reporting stemming from the investigation of these cases explains that in many cases, the healthier parent is often targeted for loss and undermined with regard to providing for children and with regard to the financial outcome.
    • This is occurring while the more dysfunctional or vindictive parent is rewarded for using foul play.
    • It appears there is a simple profit motive for cases to be managed toward this end.  The more you incite an “off-balance” or vindictive party, or the more risk you create for a child, the more desperate the other parent will be to litigate to restore balance or prevent loss.
    • The examination of billing records by many attorneys and custody experts provides a clear picture of the motive behind the mismanagement of cases and the abandonment of ethics.
  • Children are losing the best of both parents in many situations, as one or both parents are removed from the children and to a degree that is either not necessary.
    • What is being done to parents in a large number of cases is not in keeping with the facts of the case.  If you look at each case it is clear that what is being told or done to parents by professionals is either causing or exacerbating the problem.
    • The damages, the worsened outcomes, are beyond what these parents would cause or experience on their own.
  • These families are not just dividing assets and time; they are being destroyed, and the mental health damages are on the rise.
    • These leads to more addiction, more violence, and more trauma for children.
    • This also means that in cases involving child abuse, the children are losing the parent who is more nurturing and protective, and they are often subjected to more abuse.
  • Parents are so distracted & destabilized by the process, by what certain professionals are doing and saying to them, that they feel helpless and hopeless.
    • They cannot make informed or good decisions, and until it is too late, they do not realize that they have been set up to fail.
    • Many are losing their homes as a result.
  • Many litigants lose control after realizing that much of what was done to them and to their children was done intentionally.  The trauma from the betrayal combined with their losses is too much for some, and we have seen suicide and other devastation.
  • Some parents work to learn the truth surrounding how their cases were handled, and are finding that it is virtually impossible to correct the damages or to have accountability for the professionals who caused the damages.
    • After vetting many dozens of cases in this area, a clear pattern has surfaced which reveals that certain attorneys, custody experts, financial advisors and judges are cooperating to cause the damages and to cover for each other.
    • This realization is leading to a desperate and outraged public.  With no end in sight for consumers, there is no hope for the public to trust our legal system.
  • Even more parents are too destabilized, or too ashamed to acknowledge what was done to them, to even be able to speak up and ask for help.  This serves to feed desperation and bitterness, while also enabling the misconduct to continue and even increase.

It is critical now that we work together as a State to avoid more of this where and when possible.

My Advocate Center helps you see the path ahead, like never before possible.

My Advocate Center helps you see the path ahead, like never before possible.

Solutions:

We believe all of this does not need to be the case, and that there are solutions that are positive, inclusive and that can benefit parents and children across the socio-economic spectrum, from all areas of our state.

These solutions benefit both consumers and professionals, while also serving to uplift our schools, law enforcement and our government agencies — as healthier, more intact families make contributions to community and help reduce waste and time lost from school, work and life.

  • We are working on a number of cases right now where we can demonstrate that it IS possible to make corrections and to restore balance.
    • Transparency is being introduced where none existed before.
    • Identifying & supporting the right legal professionals as they advocate for corrections in a way that serves the real needs of children is key.  It is clear now that there are attorneys who believe in upholding the needs of parents and children, and who take fiduciary duty & the standards of care seriously. They are using available evidence to reach the best outcomes, protecting clients and children in an ethical manner.
    • Our healthcare community plays a critical role in supporting families, but is currently under-utilized in serving the mental health needs of parents dealing with conflict and dysfunction.
    • More upstanding medical & psychological professionals are showing support and speaking up, offering help on these cases.
    • Demonstrating what is possible when parents can address their real mental health needs, and while being served with honest and loyal guidance from legal & financial professionals will do much to create positive changes to the negative trends described here.
  • The forward-thinking part of our mission is to create an informed public who will seek out the best counseling early in the process, where prevention and intervention can take place.

Improving the Family Law Environment:

  • Doing this work will go a long way toward restoring the public trust, to restoring balance in a way that helps our legal system function as it was designed to – for the benefit of our citizens and their children.
  • Parents and children will have a voice and a way to be heard that makes a difference in how they are treated in our legal system, and in a way that leads to better outcomes and faster recovery.

With the help of our advisors from various civic and business sectors My Advocate Center has developed white papers and case studies that address both problems and solutions related to the damages being caused to far too many parents and children in Georgia.

In these documents we outline the various components of this industry in a way that will help you understand the big picture, specifically why thousands of people and children are left in worse shape than where they were found before entering the legal system.  This section on our website was designed to present some of the highlights.

Perspective:

There are several key points we ask you to keep in mind as you read and digest our reports:

  • The extent of the damages being caused to good parents and to children is unnecessary.
    • Divorce is bad enough, but what the process is doing to families is worse than what even “high conflict” parents do to each other, and it is worse than what the children are experiencing before their parents enter the legal process.
    • We are asking you to focus on why that is the case, who is driving this situation and preventing transparency and accountability.
  • While this is a large and complicated problem, we believe nothing is impossible.  The alliance that has been forming to start shifting and correcting these issues has powerful resources.
  • A growing percentage of our population believes that all legal professionals, including all judges, are corrupt.  Many see the whole system as broken, and want it taken down.
  • Our leadership sees extensive damages, large numbers of cases being mishandled with a worsening aftermath for children and for parents.
    • Their mental & physical health are negatively impacted by trauma created from professional misconduct layered on top of naturally occurring losses.
    • Parents are finding they cannot provide for their children because of what was taken from them financially, and they are losing their ability to work and be productive, or to recover as they might have otherwise.
    • These parents and children are unable to thrive and contribute in our communities, certainly not in the way they would have without this additional damage.
  • However, we at My Advocate Center and those in our alliance do not see that this is caused by a completely “broken system” but rather it is caused by a select group in each sector of the legal system who choose to exploit for financial gain.
    • Not all attorneys, judges and custody or financial experts who serve in family court do business this way.
    • By focusing on those professionals who uphold families, laws and ethics rules we can improve this situation.

Please contact us to learn more and to request your copy of our White Paper or to review case studies appropriate to your area of interest.