Learning to Prevent Child Abuse: Voice Today

My Advocate Center is aligned with several groups around the country that each have a specific focus.  The more we all learn about different issues that affect children and parents, whether it involves our court system or not, the more we can bring awareness, solutions and change.

Voice Today is in Georgia but is educating the public on a national level about how to identify situations where children may be at risk, and how to respond and to prevent injury.

Please watch this video, share and follow Voice Today to learn more.  

Join the movement to help protect children, intervene to prevent these dangerous cycles from continuing, and support My Advocate Center as we address and correct the bad practices in Family Court that enable and cover up this and other forms of child abuse.  Our mission involves supporting parents as they work, oftentimes against difficult odds and unseen forces, to provide for and to protect their children.

Unfortunately child abuse is a growing problem that is exacerbated by how certain court professionals are ignoring evidence and the needs of children. Voice Today founder Angela Williams has witnessed this in our cases.  

Please also support the policy reform that both of our groups are working on, as these improve protections for children and help families recover from abuse.  

Angela Williams just testified at the Georgia Capitol on HB 771 to extend the statute of limitations on civil child sexual abuse cases, so please encourage your elected officials to support this bill and this improvement that will help drive positive change.

 

 

Good Fathers Matter

It is taking a crisis in Georgia for many to get the difference between the good fathers (like those we are working with, the ones getting the raw deal in family court) and those who are being enabled as they behave badly.

But let’s put that mess aside, and help Georgia get “off the ice” now, and focused on moving forward!

This is what matters, this report courtesy of one of our legislators who is helping the public see the good in a crisis:

 “A father walked 6 miles in the snow to his daughter’s school so she would not spend her first night away from home alone.” #GoodFathersMatter

View on Twitter: pic.twitter.com/pNBAZjBZ0X

 

True Georgia story: a father walked 6 miles in the storm to join his daughter stranded at her school.  She did not have to spend her first night away from home...alone without him.

True Georgia story: a father walked 6 miles in the storm to join his daughter stranded at her school. She did not have to spend her first night away from home…alone without him.

From My Advocate Center:

To ALL the many fathers we know here in Georgia and around the country who are being put in a position to NOT be able to give to your children this way:

We recognize what is happening, and are as committed to you and to this problem as we are to others.

Stay strong and keep giving and doing what you know is right for your children, even when you are being held back. #NotGivingUp

Missing Parents

For kids who have missed out on a relationship with a mom or dad after divorce:

If you believe that your mom or dad did not choose to go missing on you, consider asking for some help with research.   You may see that parent occasionally and be unsure of why you have so little time with them.  Yes, sometimes it’s for a good reason, but not always.  These words are here to help you see that you can at least ask the questions and learn more now that you are older.

Your situation doesn’t have to be related to a divorce, but the reason our team is focusing on “Missing Parents” is that we have seen some bad decisions by judges and attorneys.   Sometimes the court can get in the way of what is really in your best interest, rather than doing what is right for you when it comes to time with your parents.  The problem is that people just don’t talk about this very often, and not where you can hear.

We are not saying we want to give you false hope.  Sometimes parents don’t know how to be parents and can’t cope.  But it’s worth checking to see if the court professionals working with your parents did something that didn’t make any sense.  If you want a relationship with a parent you have not seen much, but are afraid to ask, then let us know.

Sometimes a parent is just unhealthy and really can’t be involved, and that is something you can face and learn to cope with if that is true. Our hope is that even a parent who had some problems can get the right help and learn how to be what you need.

There are other situations, though, where the court decided to cut off a decent mom or dad, and for no good reason.

We know of parents who are fighting to earn enough money to afford help, or to find a way to deal with a wrong decision made by a judge.  

Sometimes parents wind up in front of a judge who maybe wasn’t paying attention to what YOU really need and want.  

Sometimes attorneys get lazy, and other times the “Guardian” can make huge mistakes in how they judge a mom or dad who was given bad advice by their lawyer.

There are different scenarios around attorneys and judges that can interfere with what you need and with what should happen with your parents.  It may not matter what the details are, but our mission is to create more resources that you can use to find answers – – answers that help you have what you need from both parents.

We have learned that there are decent parents who are not allowed to even contact their kids.

Unfortunately this separation can happen because an attorney or a “custody expert” decided to play games at your parent’s expense.  Really…at your expense.  That interference is what we are working to help correct, so if our work can lead you to get a parent back in your life who never should have been pushed away from you, then it makes all of our hard work worthwhile.

At least now there is a way to find out more information that can shed light.

You deserve the best that both of your parents have to offer you, as long as they are safe for you and not inflicting emotional or physical pain.

You may be old enough now to know the difference and to want answers.   First, we ask that you find an adult you trust through school, church or a counselor to help you as you ask questions and learn more.

It’s not right what certain professionals are doing for the sake of making extra money, but if you’re strong enough there may be a better way to deal with this than to worry and wonder.  For sure you should not assume that the parent you’ve been missing left you because they wanted to.

The hard part in answering these questions is that you may learn that the parent you’ve been living with had something to do with cutting out your other parent, and was using some kind of manipulation to make that parent go away.

If that happened it’s not right, but adults are not perfect.   Even a decent parent can have a bad idea.  Some make mistakes and don’t want to consider that they might have been wrong.

They’re human, so if you’re uncomfortable with finding out just how “human” your mom or dad is, don’t deal with this alone.  [We have good counselors who can help with these issues, so just ask.]   There is some risk involved in asking tough questions, and in facing the answers.  This is something you can prepare for, and handle as you feel ready.

Just know you aren’t alone, and that things are changing for the better.  

If you find out that a missing parent wants to see you, and needs support or counseling in order to have a healthy relationship with you, then ask for what you need to make it work.   That parent may be more scared than you are, especially if some time has passed and if you were given incorrect information about this parent.   You may learn that even if you missed valuable time together that you can make up for it as an adult, and find that “silver lining” that you hear about.

It’s there if you look for it.

Missing a parent?  Not sure what happened?  There may be more to the story than you realize.  Maybe it's time to ask, and ask someone who will not be mad at you for saying what you need.

Missing a parent? Not sure what happened? There may be more to the story than you realize. Maybe it’s time to ask, and ask someone who will not be mad at you for saying what you need.

 

Judges, Attorneys, Guardians and Custody Evaluators:  We hope that as kids become old enough to search on the Internet and to ask questions about why a parent suddenly wasn’t around much after a divorce, that a number of them will find their way here.

Please do what is within your power to stop alienation tactics and to restore balance in family conflicts.

“Parental alienation” is a term that kids do not understand and should not ever have to learn.

Our data shows that many alienation cases would NOT happen if certain court professionals did not encourage this bad behavior.  You see often enough the GAL who rewards a vindictive parent who will pay for the opportunity to cause misery.   It is YOUR job to use evidence and laws to protect children from losing good parents.

MLK Day: Join the Movement

Join Parents & supporters of the civil rights that are being denied in Family Court.  Continue this movement.

Join Parents & supporters of the civil rights that are being denied in Family Court. Continue this movement.

“What are YOU doing for others?”  This was the premise behind founding My Advocate Center, and asking more parents, professionals, policymakers & civic leaders to get involved.

Join the group of parents and concerned citizens who are voicing the urgent need for Family Court Reform.

Children are missing good parents.  Parents are being denied the right to care for, nurture and protect their children.

This is not necessary to allow this to happen – not according to our laws, our constitution, and based on the facts and evidence of these cases.

Help these families recover while we work to prevent more of the same.

We can’t think of a better way to honor the memory of the ultimate “Game Changer” in the history of Civil Rights.

Thank you for your support, and for using your voice in a non-violent way.

Please see our Facebook event page for details:  https://www.facebook.com/events/640934305968467/

Then subscribe to receive the newsletter about this Rally on MLK Day 2014, Atlanta, Georgia.

Atlanta News: CBS Asks Why the Need for Family Court Reform

You may have learned over this past year that just because police and DFCS substantiate claims of child abuse, that does not mean the judge and custody experts will use this evidence to protect a child.

It does not even mean that the child’s THERAPIST will take the evidence seriously in order to protect the child…how is that even possible?  This therapist was chosen by the mother, but only because she had a credible background and substantial role in advocacy for children.  However, when money becomes an issue…it appears evidence and the medical needs of a child do not carry much weight.

This therapist would not listen to police, the child, other real doctors and is not trained to treat dissociative disorder.  This disorder can manifest for victims of severe and prolonged abuse.

This medical disorder and the signs of trauma are glaring in a number of cases in Georgia that are being handled much like this one.  Should our healthcare community and educators be made aware, so they can get involved to help stop this?  We think so.

Dr Danielle Levy decided that overwhelming evidence of abuse & trauma should be ignored.  $$$

Dr Danielle Levy decided that overwhelming evidence of abuse & trauma should be ignored. $$$

 

My Advocate Center has been researching cases across counties and collecting data, and unfortunately the pattern is the same.  If certain attorneys and select custody experts get together, they can put profit over protection.

By hosting the world premiere of the Divorce Corp. film narrated by Dr. Drew, Atlanta was able to bring together parents and professionals to expose the truth and discuss reform.

Continue reading and watching our news coverage as there is much more to report that will help drive change, should you choose to understand and then act on it.

 

 

This is the second in a series of interviews on this case, but the start of a national movement with My Advocate Center to help fathers understand what mothers like this one are going through.  We are all on the same team around protecting children who are being harmed by unethical court practices, foul play, and the “Pay to Play” system.

Guilty parties will pay large amounts of money to have evidence suppressed, and to retain access to their victims.   It is a “Pay to Play” system that allows violent or abusive parties to use children as pawns and to use the process to hide crimes and punish parents seeking protection from the court.

This “Pay to Play” concept also works in reverse, where certain attorneys counsel clients to lie to police – wasting our law enforcement resources – and use false allegations to gain advantage or punish the other party.  Either way, children are harmed, as is our State.  The case revealed in our local coverage fits the Pay to Play concept, and foul play is involved, but it is not a false allegations case as the father’s attorney is asserting.  Look at the facts of the case, the record, and what the professionals were paid to keep the available evidence and testimony – including from police – OFF the record.

There is more to follow, including the tactics of working to deny a litigant the opportunity and right to appeal.

Now is the time to get involved, and save these children and the good parents counting on our Courts and laws for protection.

Please follow updates about Family Court Reform and ask your legislators to help see this through.

Twitter: Follow @MyAdvocateCentr  using #FamilyCourtReform #ImproveFamilyLaw #NeedsofChildren #MyAdvocateCenter — and help stop these #shenanigans.

 

Atlanta News Radio – Family Court Reform

The gavel dropped to open the 2014 Georgia legislative session, right after this brief segment aired.

All News 106.7 and Scott Kimbler reveal what is going on behind the scenes at My Advocate Center regarding Family Court Reform.

Help us serve the real needs of children who are not being protected due to foul play and hidden influence in certain family court cases.

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Teens & Kids Who Miss Their Parents

Somehow you made it to this website, so thank you for reading this far.

Are you not sure what you should think about your parents?

What about why you haven’t had much of a relationship with one of your parents, or maybe no contact at all with a mother or father?

Missing a parent?  Not sure what happened?  There may be more to the story than you realize.  Maybe it's time to ask, and ask someone who will not be mad at you for saying what you need.

Missing a parent? Not sure what happened? There may be more to the story than you realize. Maybe it’s time to ask, and ask someone who will not be mad at you for saying what you need.

We are hearing this a lot.

So if this sounds like your life, you are not alone.

All the answers are not here on this page, but we can help you on the right path to getting answers and help you connect with people you can trust.

It can be emotional learning about this – about the answers as to why a parent seems to have gone missing from your life.

But if you really want to know, you can get help dealing with emotions and fears.   You can also get help working with whatever legal issues there may be.

Things are changing, and it’s your turn to ask for what you need!

Court professionals use a term called “alienation” and they are supposed to help prevent you from losing a loving parent, but that’s not always how it turns out. And that is part of the reason we exist.  We want you to have the best that BOTH of your parents can give you.   So send us a message through Facebook, or go to the Contact Us page and send an email if you want to learn more.

 

The Full Story Behind the Divorce Corp. Film

There was another documentary made before this Divorce Corp. film, but from a different perspective. It was not narrated by a big name media personality so most of us did not hear about it. My Advocate Center’s Executive Director Deb Beacham learned about this documentary after talking about the Divorce Corp film with family court leaders and advocates around the country.

That’s the lead in to the rest of the story, a story that will continue developing as we get closer to our event and the world premiere of this shocking film.

Just know it’s about more than one film, and about more than one voice.

While waiting to hear what Dr. Drew says about the family court industry, please watch this trailer and understand the issues from the perspective of children. Many of Dr. Drew’s adult patients were victims of childhood abuse.

No Way Out But One is important, and is complementary to what we are talking about on the night of our Divorce Corp. screening.

This is about child abuse that is covered up, but using the same court professionals who punish innocent fathers.

 

After you watch this trailer, please join Court Watches around the country like this one in Cobb County, Georgia.