Mothers, even good mothers, do sometimes lose their children in the legal process involving custody matters.

Fathers claim the Courts are biased in favor of mothers.

Both sides fight back, and not always fairly or with an eye on their children.

Minorities want Favored Minority Status because it is the only way in their minds to protect against discrimination.  Domestic Violence victims hear that the Court doesn’t care about family violence, or are afraid they won’t be seen as a “good enough victim” to get protection or support from the Court professionals.

Groups who do not belong to or follow the Mainstream want their rights upheld, and justly so.  Some are afraid to be seen and then misjudged for not fitting a mold we believe the Court wants upheld.

The Court is not designed to protect one gender over another, or one ethnic, religious or societal group over another.  But somehow most of us fall into the trap of believing this is true, so that way it makes more sense if we don’t prevail.  If we can make sense of it, then we know what we are up against, correct?

What actually prevents us from succeeding is information and preparedness.  Who is responsible for helping us prepare?  WE are.  We must identify resources, make the right choices for our unique situation and location and political environment, and then use those resources wisely.

It is just not as simple as “I am a Woman, so therefore I must hire this strong male, or that female bulldog of an attorney.”  That is a rumor.  An uninformed one at that.  Just like the one that states, “If she lost her children, then there must be something wrong with her.”  Or the misperception that, “He only sees his children 30% of the time, so therefore the mother prevailed,” or “he is just a so-so dad.”   Write down your beliefs and the rumors you are allowing to guide your decisions.  Don’t just Gut-Check them; FACT check them.

The brief point to our initial blog post here is this:  things are not always as they seem, and they are not always as they should be.  So get your head in the game, clear your thoughts, and learn.  If you are not sure where to start, just send us an email.  That part is simple.