Needs of Children

Green Light on Needs of Children

March 26, 2014 by Chief Navigator

Who is STOPPING good parents from caring for their children? …stopping them from WORKING so they can provide for children?

Spotlight on Augusta, Georgia and on Columbia County for what the local Superior Court and law enforcement agencies know is being done improperly to a good father. He is a good, hard-working man who loves and misses his child, and he deserves our support and attention from our leadership and news media.

A Candlelight Vigil is being held to light up the dark and drafty space surrounding the detention center where this man is being mistreated. See this event page to RSVP and watch for updates.

Now that this case has been investigated by others outside the local system in Augusta, we are giving the “Green Light” for people to raise awareness about the dangers to every parent in this area who might pass through this court system.

WFXG FOX54 Augusta – Your News One Hour Earlier

The situation described in this video is disturbing, but it is also disturbing to us that a good father…also seeking to protect his daughter…is being held in jail on false allegations. There are some very interesting similarities on these two cases. Both involve DFCS, law enforcement and certain child custody “experts” and the numbers and rulings just do not add up. Both are leading to damages to these children. Damages that can be avoided and that should be corrected.

We are asking law enforcement and our state and local leaders to bring transparency into this father’s case and into Augusta to see why so many good parents are unable to care for their own children, why they are losing their property and jobs, and their health.

The evidence of these cases dictates that these are the wrong outcomes. What’s next? #GreenLightAugusta

What about the laws? Are they being followed? Keep asking, and show up for these families. Follow #NeedforGreen to learn more about what is holding back good parents, leaving families in worse shape than before.

This story from Texas is now going viral, and it is closely related to what is happening in Augusta, and all over Georgia:

Post by FOX 26 Houston.

Please study local cases and ask questions, especially of Judge Michael Annis about judicial procedure and the use of evidence to exonerate innocent parties. It appears the evidence was ignored here and a good father jailed because he stood up for his rights to parent and protect his daughter.

He is fighting for his right to work and to provide for her — and for the chance to recover from what was done wrongfully to him in his divorce and custody case.

This father who is being held wrongfully, denied clean clothing for a week, being denied phone calls…is now writing letters to his daughter so that she knows she is not being abandoned by him. Help him ensure these letters get to his daughter so that she doesn’t believe that he has abandoned her? This is critical for her…not just for him. (Please understand that THREE fathers in metro Atlanta have taken their lives after this type of custody case and mistreatment by court professionals. We do not need another tragedy, and another Fatherless Daughter, for the State of Georgia to get the point: it is time to intervene!)

Video testimony is helpful in getting what this is like, the reality for people in this situation, so please take a few minutes to watch this, and see that what happens to this woman in court is the SAME as what happened to this man who is now in jail in Augusta – away from his child who needs his protection and support.

This father wants to get back to work, so that he can pay child support, plus manage the outrageous fees put on him by these court professionals. Let him out. Let him work. Let him defend himself. Give this child her father back.

Filed Under: Augusta News, Case Studies & Examples, Child Custody, Child Support, Civil Rights, Divorce Corp., Family Court Review, Green Light, Jailed for Fighting for Children, Kids Need Their Parents, Missing Parents, Need for Green, Parents Rights, Preventing Tragedy & Loss, Professional Misconduct, Wrongful Imprisonment Tagged With: Augusta, Augusta National, Child Support, Civil Rights, Criminal Attorney, False Allegations, Family Court, Fatherless Daughters, Fathers, Fox 26 Texas, Georgia Legal, Houston Texas, human rights, Judicial Error, My Advocate Center, Need for Green, Needs of Children, Public Defender, The Masters 2014, Wrongful Imprisonment

Teens & Kids Who Miss Their Parents

January 11, 2014 by Chief Navigator

Somehow you made it to this website, so thank you for reading this far.

Are you not sure what you should think about your parents?

What about why you haven’t had much of a relationship with one of your parents, or maybe no contact at all with a mother or father?

Missing a parent? Not sure what happened? There may be more to the story than you realize. Maybe it’s time to ask, and ask someone who will not be mad at you for saying what you need.

We are hearing this a lot.

So if this sounds like your life, you are not alone.

All the answers are not here on this page, but we can help you on the right path to getting answers and help you connect with people you can trust.

It can be emotional learning about this – about the answers as to why a parent seems to have gone missing from your life.

But if you really want to know, you can get help dealing with emotions and fears. You can also get help working with whatever legal issues there may be.

Things are changing, and it’s your turn to ask for what you need!

Court professionals use a term called “alienation” and they are supposed to help prevent you from losing a loving parent, but that’s not always how it turns out. And that is part of the reason we exist. We want you to have the best that BOTH of your parents can give you. So send us a message through Facebook, or go to the Contact Us page and send an email if you want to learn more.

Filed Under: Alienation of Parents & Children, Kids Need Their Parents, Missing Parents, On Behalf of Children Tagged With: Alienation of Kids, Alienation of Parents, Children, Divorced Kids, Miss my Dad, Miss My Mom, My Advocate Center, Needs of Children, Parents, Rights of Kids, Teens

Rally on Fulton County Courthouse Steps

July 2, 2013 by Chief Navigator Leave a Comment

When: July 8th, Monday after the holiday weekend. During the lunch hour, 11am to 1pm.

Where: Fulton County Courthouse

What: #RALLY4Kids

Who: Concerned parents & those who support families and children, including church members, neighbors and co-workers.

Why are hundreds of people emailing and calling for help?

Because it seems that certain judges are not allowing good parents to protect and care for their children.

Is it just because of judicial bias against a certain gender or against the color of a parent’s skin? Or is there some other influence we cannot see or anticipate?

This message is not just coming from hundreds of people in a small area of Atlanta. There are tens of thousands nationally saying the same thing. But next week we are focusing on two judges, in one courthouse. #FultonCounty #Georgia

The messages you can help us share here on Facebook, on Twitter, and over the phone or in email:

Serve the #NeedsofChildren

#StopChildAbuse

#ImproveFamilyLaw by bringing attention to #FultonFamilyCourt and the actions of certain judges on certain cases.

Help us ask, “Why are you suppressing evidence of child abuse?”

“Why are you locking out good parents when their children need them most??”

“Why would you take a child from a great parent, take away that parent’s rights and steal their money, just to reward someone who is paying to suppress evidence of wrongdoing?”

“Why would you put a child into the hands of someone believed by several professionals, including law enforcement, to be abusing a child?” And, “Is it OK to allow expert witnesses to be intimidated and prevented from supporting a child they believe to be suffering from abuse?”

Is this how the legal process and our laws are supposed to work?

What are we missing here? We would really like to know what “best interests of the child” means in YOUR reality, because things aren’t adding up – not in a way that is HEALTHY for our children.

We would appreciate as concerned citizens, tax-payers, parents and neighbors being able to see if there is something we just don’t know about why our Courts are enabling misconduct and rewarding foul play. Is there a good/legal reason for allowing children to get hurt, and to repeatedly be hurt? If we are wrong on drawing conclusions in all of our CASE STUDIES across all of these cases, across all of these court rooms, then we would love for you to show us why these patterns of conduct make sense to you.

Please, discuss this with us and help us understand? We know it is not because we don’t have access to talented, bright, law-abiding attorneys and psychologists, or access to good judges. Correct?

Our community is filled not only with parents, friends, family, church members and neighbors; it is filled with educators, doctors/nurses/therapists, law enforcement officers and business people. They all want answers and are tired of hearing the same terrible stories.

Many from all over our society are asking us to explain, because it just DOES NOT MAKE SENSE why you would NOT FOLLOW LAWS that are designed to PROTECT CHILDREN AND PARENTS.

Does this make sense to anyone you know?? Follow this event and talk to us: On Facebook & On Twitter

Why is My Advocate Center promoting this event and these messages?

Simply because we need to, as so many children are being hurt.

What’s next? Parents, professionals and even policy makers are asking for intervention. They are asking what THEY can do to stop the misconduct leading to injury of children. So next we will be revealing case studies and answering questions with our panel of experts and officials in a larger Town Hall setting. Date/Location TBD.

For now, please join these caring families, neighbors and church friends next Monday, July 8th at lunch time.

Use your time and your voice to ask these Fulton County Judges and attorneys to change what they are doing to our children and their parents.

Filed Under: Alienation of Parents & Children, Child Custody, Evolving Solutions: Family Law, On Behalf of Children, Preventing Tragedy & Loss, Uncategorized Tagged With: Atlanta, Family Court, Fulton County, Georgia, Improve Family Law, Judge Goger, Judge Lane, Needs of Children, Protect Children, Rally4Kids, Rights of Parents, Stop Child Abuse

Golden Rule or Gold Rules?

October 30, 2012 by Chief Navigator Leave a Comment

You already know the answer. When you choose how someone should treat you, it’s the Golden Rule.

But what about in a contest, especially in a high stakes contest such as in a divorce or in a child custody dispute?

Should the truth count – because that is what the children are counting on, so that they benefit from all both parents can give them? Or should it be a matter of who is able to wield the most influence, especially the most HIDDEN influence?

What about loyalty and honesty toward clients – especially clients who are focused on protecting and providing for children?

Should Fiduciary Duty be expected, and if that duty is absent, should it be looked at closely?

This is just a sampling of what is being revealed about our Family Court system, as investigated by My Advocate Center and an ever-increasing number of parents and interested reporters. Our work continues this month surrounding the fallout for children caught in this gap between truth and “other” influences. The case studies resulting from this work are compelling, so please schedule time with one of our advisors if you would like to learn more.

Then, please turn to the children of the parents in these case studies. Understand what this means for them when family conflict is handled poorly, or when loyalty and honesty are withheld from parents in high-stakes disputes.

Let’s ask that more professionals apply the Golden Rule around upholding duty, applying their best effort to helping children receive the best that BOTH parents can give them. WHY would you NOT want to allow that to happen?

Where we see that this is not happening, and children are being damaged, we are simply inviting these professionals to join us in shifting this problem. Because it IS a very large, very high-impact problem. It is time to do better here, and it is possible to be both successful, profitable, influential…AND to uphold the real Needs of Children.

We are here to guide Parents, Professionals and Policy Makers for the benefit of families who are transitioning through and out of conflict.

Let’s work together to ensure that the family’s resources go toward helping their children.

Isn’t that the BEST use of the Golden Rule?

Filed Under: Child Custody, Domestic Violence, Evolving Solutions: Family Law, Family Violence Tagged With: Custody Conflict, Domestic Violence, Fair/Balanced, For Parents, Knowledge is Power, Mother vs Father, Needs of Children, Parents in Court, What Matters?

The Looking Glass: How Children See Themselves

October 15, 2012 by Chief Navigator Leave a Comment

Why the focus on children for My Advocate Center?

Check out this video, then keep reading and join in on this event to learn more!

This is important for both parents and professionals.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KHi2dxSf9hw

We do what we do because that is what is missing from too many legal disputes related to divorce and child custody matters.

There is an enormous gap in how cases are handled that allows the needs of children to get dropped from the discussion. Yes, it sounds good enough that the law says we are to decide and act on matters based on the “best interests of the child,” but what does that really mean?

Can you think of many examples where that was carried out in a way that meant something positive to the child involved?

Chances are, what you recall from your own case or that of someone you know is that your children lost out in more than a couple of ways. That is sad given that the parties and the professionals claim to be working for the “sake of the children.” Please consider this:

“Children get their earliest, most lasting impressions of who they are from what is reflected back to them by their parents. These impressions become those ‘records’ in the jukebox of your child’s brain.” This is the Looking-Glass-Self principle provided by psychotherapists to describe what happens, and you can read about more examples in the Parenting Roles section on the Focus on the Family website. Please read their articles about both the Real Job of Mothers and the one linked here for Fathers.

Can you imagine what children are seeing in this looking glass – this mirror that IS the faces of their parents during a time of extreme tension, conflict, uncertainty, hostility, fear, duress?

If you care about children, then your focus should be on improving what is being reflected for children. If a parent, especially the main caregiver is made to feel fear, then the child absorbs and learns fear – and there is no way around it…the child learns to see himself as fearful. Anxious, Uncertain, Sad, Pained. Naturally this leads to a greater need for attention, for self-soothing, and affects sleep, focus and relationships. Not what you are going for?

If you are a Parent currently embroiled in a custody dispute, ask yourself & your spouse what your children are seeing, hearing, feeling. Is it necessary? Are you willing to change the dialogue & your actions to be geared FOR your children rather than just ABOUT your children? If you aren’t certain how to have this discussion or what to do about increasing conflict, let us know. The professionals we are aligned with get this.

The time to insert common sense and reason – on behalf of children – is before conflict starts to escalate. Parents on both sides, as well as the professionals, need to consider what they are willing to risk around the child’s well-being before they go down the wrong path.

We have found that this is missing in the process, so everything we provide to parents, professionals & policy makers comes back to this one point.

The truth around Family Court practices – what our case studies show – is that too often the wrong outcome is being intentionally created, causing the children to experience the worst of both parents, rather than what is best.

If the process and attitudes remain as they are in the legal arena involving divorce and child custody matters, then too many thousands of children will continue to be sacrificed for the sake of something much less important. They are being sacrificed for the profit of a few.

If you are not willing to allow this to continue – if you want to be a part of the Solution and not a part of the Problem, then please connect with us and help continue this discussion.