Parents in Court

You already know the answer. When you choose how someone should treat you, it’s the Golden Rule.

But what about in a contest, especially in a high stakes contest such as in a divorce or in a child custody dispute?

Should the truth count – because that is what the children are counting on, so that they benefit from all both parents can give them? Or should it be a matter of who is able to wield the most influence, especially the most HIDDEN influence?

What about loyalty and honesty toward clients – especially clients who are focused on protecting and providing for children?

Should Fiduciary Duty be expected, and if that duty is absent, should it be looked at closely?

This is just a sampling of what is being revealed about our Family Court system, as investigated by My Advocate Center and an ever-increasing number of parents and interested reporters. Our work continues this month surrounding the fallout for children caught in this gap between truth and “other” influences. The case studies resulting from this work are compelling, so please schedule time with one of our advisors if you would like to learn more.

Then, please turn to the children of the parents in these case studies. Understand what this means for them when family conflict is handled poorly, or when loyalty and honesty are withheld from parents in high-stakes disputes.

Let’s ask that more professionals apply the Golden Rule around upholding duty, applying their best effort to helping children receive the best that BOTH parents can give them. WHY would you NOT want to allow that to happen?

Where we see that this is not happening, and children are being damaged, we are simply inviting these professionals to join us in shifting this problem. Because it IS a very large, very high-impact problem. It is time to do better here, and it is possible to be both successful, profitable, influential…AND to uphold the real Needs of Children.

We are here to guide Parents, Professionals and Policy Makers for the benefit of families who are transitioning through and out of conflict.

Let’s work together to ensure that the family’s resources go toward helping their children.

Isn’t that the BEST use of the Golden Rule?

The Court Discriminates, but Not Like You Think

Mothers, even good mothers, do sometimes lose their children in the legal process involving custody matters.

Fathers claim the Courts are biased in favor of mothers.

Both sides fight back, and not always fairly or with an eye on their children.

Minorities want Favored Minority Status because it is the only way in their minds to protect against discrimination. Domestic Violence victims hear that the Court doesn’t care about family violence, or are afraid they won’t be seen as a “good enough victim” to get protection or support from the Court professionals.

Groups who do not belong to or follow the Mainstream want their rights upheld, and justly so. Some are afraid to be seen and then misjudged for not fitting a mold we believe the Court wants upheld.

The Court is not designed to protect one gender over another, or one ethnic, religious or societal group over another. But somehow most of us fall into the trap of believing this is true, so that way it makes more sense if we don’t prevail. If we can make sense of it, then we know what we are up against, correct?

What actually prevents us from succeeding is information and preparedness. Who is responsible for helping us prepare? WE are. We must identify resources, make the right choices for our unique situation and location and political environment, and then use those resources wisely.

It is just not as simple as “I am a Woman, so therefore I must hire this strong male, or that female bulldog of an attorney.” That is a rumor. An uninformed one at that. Just like the one that states, “If she lost her children, then there must be something wrong with her.” Or the misperception that, “He only sees his children 30% of the time, so therefore the mother prevailed,” or “he is just a so-so dad.” Write down your beliefs and the rumors you are allowing to guide your decisions. Don’t just Gut-Check them; FACT check them.

The brief point to our initial blog post here is this: things are not always as they seem, and they are not always as they should be. So get your head in the game, clear your thoughts, and learn. If you are not sure where to start, just send us an email. That part is simple.

Golden Rule or Gold Rules?

The Court Discriminates, but Not Like You Think