Grooming. Hedge Fund Style.

Grooming is no longer a word you should use in your budget or financial affidavit for litigation. It is associated with snagging the attention of victims and preparing them for servitude. It is taking away modesty and boundaries that keep children and young women safe. Grooming means to normalize unwanted sexual experiences, including pornography and sexual assault. It is putting children in a position where they must not resist and then they lose inhibitions and the internal call to resist and leave. This is how sex traffickers succeed. Grooming includes desensitizing the child to what is happening, giving it a name that makes it seem acceptable and not an offense that should be reported.

Grooming can include turning children into predators, rewarding them for engaging and being aggressive towards other children. Sometimes children become the recruiters, as is the case with Epstein’s stable of victims.

The seasoned woman attached to Jeffrey Epstein is reported as having fallen off the social scene in New York but what she did to girls should be on our radar and in our minds from now on. We not only need to be on the lookout for those who sexually exploit and abuse children but also those who win them over and groom them for sex acts and slavery. [listen in news reports for titles to books ordered by Epstein]

That is the role Ms. Maxwell appears to have served, at least one of them. Groomer of young girls. The stories about Epstein and Maxwell are tough to stomach, but salacious enough given celebrity status with homes around the globe that media will continue expanding on the details. It’s time.

I believe justice can still be served for the young women reeled in, groomed and exploited by the accomplice, a polished and privileged woman who charmed everyone in her social circles. I believe in not giving up.

I’m proud of my hometown paper for being the driver in the exposure of this sex trafficking enterprise dominated by hedge fund mogul Jeffrey Epstein and I’m grateful to Julie K. Brown for not letting go. The Miami Herald published this scathing story about the leniency given to Epstein despite the number of girls and substantial and overwhelming evidence.

This is going to be a deep dive for media, as seen here on Fox News, and for child sex trafficking authorities for quite some time, but what I hope for you is that you become empowered to speak up and do more in your community to help vulnerable children and teens stay safe and confident enough to avoid those who groom children for the perpetrators of sexual abuse.

Go here for the Timeline of sexual abuse history and prosecution of Epstein according to Fox News.

Next? Be offended at how easy it is for some to avoid serious punishment for harming children. “We were little girls.” This part is easy: get involved.

The harder part is staying with the case and pushing through the politics when people of influence are able “change minds” of prosecutors or judges and circumvent justice for their victims. This is a major problem for society as this happens often, more often than you would like to think.

Thank you to all who are interested in getting out in front of child exploitation and in supporting family stability. The girls talk about how vulnerable they were and reporters talk about family dysfunction as a major factor in making these vulnerable to being tricked and groomed into becoming a part of this world.

We can do better. Visit GaCares.org to learn more about commercialized sexual exploitation of our youth. Be aware of people who blend in but who may be the one creating the most risk.

Keep in mind also that there are other ways children are trafficked and exploited; financial gain is not only derived from sexual abuse when children can be held hostage and silenced. Any time children can be used as commodities by hedge fund owners and their lawyers, we should step in.

What are others saying about his lair in the Virgin Islands?

‘It’s our dark corner’: Jeffrey Epstein’s ‘Pedophile Island’ no secret on St. Thomas

Based on my experience in witnessing how children were used illegally to increase profits in the Virgin Islands, on St. Thomas and with the help of the former governor investigated for misconduct and ousted, I believe there is more to this part of Epstein’s network and story. Were other hedge fund owners and other women involved? It’s worth a closer look. As the headline says, it’s a “dark corner.”

Share cases involving exploitation of youth where the predators are known to the children by using the contact form above.

Deb Beacham

Fatalities in Georgia related to Stalking: Annual Report 2017

Georgia’s Commission on Family Violence and the Coalition Against Domestic Violence provide us each year with an annual report that is more than just stats, it’s a roadmap to saving lives. The 2017 report focuses on stalking and is a must read for all responders and advocates. It’s especially important for victims and family members or friends of victims.

 

Georgia Domestic Violence – Fatality Review Annual Report 2017 by Deb Beacham on Scribd

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Fund Raising to Help Restore Children to Parents

There are many cases now pending where good parents have been cut off from their children.

This case was heard by the Supreme Court where a unanimous ruling helped to turn this situation around for a good father.

Please learn from this story, and see what you can do to help those we are reporting on in Georgia.

 

This news story reveals more of the reality for parents, especially single parents caught in a system that makes it nearly impossible for them to provide for their children.

This father talks about how his military service was working against him, and he talks about the legal fees involved that led his family to do fund raisers.

Mission Statement

Rally on Fulton County Courthouse Steps

When: July 8th, Monday after the holiday weekend.  During the lunch hour, 11am to 1pm.

Where: Fulton County Courthouse

What: #RALLY4Kids

Who: Concerned parents & those who support families and children, including church members, neighbors and co-workers.

Why are hundreds of people emailing and calling for help? 

Because it seems that certain judges are not allowing good parents to protect and care for their children.

Is it just because of judicial bias against a certain gender or against the color of a parent’s skin?  Or is there some other influence we cannot see or anticipate?

This message is not just coming from hundreds of people in a small area of Atlanta.  There are tens of thousands nationally saying the same thing.  But next week we are focusing on two judges, in one courthouse.  #FultonCounty #Georgia

The messages you can help us share here on Facebook, on Twitter, and over the phone or in email:

Serve the #NeedsofChildren 

#StopChildAbuse

#ImproveFamilyLaw by bringing attention to #FultonFamilyCourt and the actions of certain judges on certain cases.

Help us ask, “Why are you suppressing evidence of child abuse?”

“Why are you locking out good parents when their children need them most??”

“Why would you take a child from a great parent, take away that parent’s rights and steal their money, just to reward someone who is paying to suppress evidence of wrongdoing?”

“Why would you put a child into the hands of someone believed by several professionals, including law enforcement, to be abusing a child?”  And, “Is it OK to allow expert witnesses to be intimidated and prevented from supporting a child they believe to be suffering from abuse?”

Is this how the legal process and our laws are supposed to work?

What are we missing here?  We would really like to know what “best interests of the child” means in YOUR reality, because things aren’t adding up – not in a way that is HEALTHY for our children.

We would appreciate as concerned citizens, tax-payers, parents and neighbors being able to see if there is something we just don’t know about why our Courts are enabling misconduct and rewarding foul play.  Is there a good/legal reason for allowing children to get hurt, and to repeatedly be hurt?  If we are wrong on drawing conclusions in all of our CASE STUDIES across all of these cases, across all of these court rooms, then we would love for you to show us why these patterns of conduct make sense to you.

Please, discuss this with us and help us understand?  We know it is not because we don’t have access to talented, bright, law-abiding attorneys and psychologists, or access to good judges.  Correct?

Our community is filled not only with parents, friends, family, church members and neighbors; it is filled with educators, doctors/nurses/therapists, law enforcement officers and business people.  They all want answers and are tired of hearing the same terrible stories.

Many from all over our society are asking us to explain, because it just DOES NOT MAKE SENSE why you would NOT FOLLOW LAWS that are designed to PROTECT CHILDREN AND PARENTS.

Does this make sense to anyone you know??  Follow this event and talk to us:  On Facebook & On Twitter

Why is My Advocate Center promoting this event and these messages?

Simply because we need to, as so many children are being hurt.

Contact Us to learn more, join the rally or just see how you can help.

What’s next?  Parents, professionals and even policy makers are asking for intervention.  They are asking what THEY can do to stop the misconduct leading to injury of children.  So next we will be revealing case studies and answering questions with our panel of experts and officials in a larger Town Hall setting.  Date/Location TBD.

For now, please join these caring families, neighbors and church friends next Monday, July 8th at lunch time.   

Use your time and your voice to ask these Fulton County Judges and attorneys to change what they are doing to our children and their parents.

 

The Looking Glass: How Children See Themselves

Why the focus on children for My Advocate Center?

Check out this video, then keep reading and join in on this event to learn more!

This is important for both parents and professionals.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KHi2dxSf9hw

We do what we do because that is what is missing from too many legal disputes related to divorce and child custody matters.

There is an enormous gap in how cases are handled that allows the needs of children to get dropped from the discussion.   Yes, it sounds good enough that the law says we are to decide and act on matters based on the “best interests of the child,” but what does that really mean?

Can you think of many examples where that was carried out in a way that meant something positive to the child involved?

Chances are, what you recall from your own case or that of someone you know is that your children lost out in more than a couple of ways.  That is sad given that the parties and the professionals claim to be working for the “sake of the children.”  Please consider this:

“Children get their earliest, most lasting impressions of who they are from what is reflected back to them by their parents.  These impressions become those ‘records’ in the jukebox of your child’s brain.”  This is the Looking-Glass-Self principle provided by psychotherapists to describe what happens, and you can read about more examples in the Parenting Roles section on the Focus on the Family website.  Please read their articles about both the Real Job of Mothers and the one linked here for Fathers.

Can you imagine what children are seeing in this looking glass – this mirror that IS the faces of their parents during a time of extreme tension, conflict, uncertainty, hostility, fear, duress?

If you care about children, then your focus should be on improving what is being reflected for children.  If a parent, especially the main caregiver is made to feel fear, then the child absorbs and learns fear – and there is no way around it…the child learns to see himself as fearful.  Anxious, Uncertain, Sad, Pained.  Naturally this leads to a greater need for attention, for self-soothing, and affects sleep, focus and relationships.  Not what you are going for?

If you are a Parent currently embroiled in a custody dispute, ask yourself & your spouse what your children are seeing, hearing, feeling.  Is it necessary?   Are you willing to change the dialogue & your actions to be geared FOR your children rather than just ABOUT your children?  If you aren’t certain how to have this discussion or what to do about increasing conflict, let us know.  The professionals we are aligned with get this.

The time to insert common sense and reason – on behalf of children – is before conflict starts to escalate.  Parents on both sides, as well as the professionals, need to consider what they are willing to risk around the child’s well-being before they go down the wrong path.

We have found that this is missing in the process, so everything we provide to parents, professionals & policy makers comes back to this one point.

The truth around Family Court practices – what our case studies show – is that too often the wrong outcome is being intentionally created, causing the children to experience the worst of both parents, rather than what is best.

If the process and attitudes remain as they are in the legal arena involving divorce and child custody matters, then too many thousands of children will continue to be sacrificed for the sake of something much less important.  They are being sacrificed for the profit of a few.

If you are not willing to allow this to continue – if you want to be a part of the Solution and not a part of the Problem, then please connect with us and  help continue this discussion.